Fahim's journey- A pathway with many reflections and turning points

 Hello everyone, and welcome to our next installment of the Pathways to Psychology blog. Today we hear from Fahim Ahmed, Therapist and coach in training. We hope learning more about Fahim's experiences could guide you in your own journey to finding a rewarding Psychology career. 

Fahim Ahmed

Therapist and coach in training

The Road to Becoming a Therapist: A Story of Reflection and Change

As a child, I was fascinated with stories. My love for mythology, fantasy and superheroes meant I spent countless hours immersed in TV shows, fantasy novels, or daydreaming. Yet, as I grew older and entered school, my passion for fiction began to fizzle out. I fell into the belief that it wasn’t “cool” to enjoy these things. Like many teenagers, I wanted to belong and avoided standing out from the crowd. It wasn’t until I selected Psychology as one of my A-Level subjects that my fascination with human behaviour reignited. Unfortunately, my enthusiasm didn’t translate into my final grade, and I ended up with a D. While disheartened by the result, I knew deep down that I still wanted to pursue Psychology, so I promised myself that I would take my studies more seriously at university.

This commitment led me to complete a BPS (British Psychological Association)-accredited undergraduate degree in Psychology at the University of East London, where I was awarded a First-Class degree. I was especially proud of my perseverance in completing my studies from home during the COVID-19 pandemic, even though the experience left a bitter taste in my mouth for the field.

After graduating in 2021, I found myself at a crossroads, uncertain of where to go next. For two years, I explored different paths, from coding to dropshipping, UX/UI design, digital marketing and even videography. But none of these fields aligned with my values or sparked a real passion.

The frustration of feeling adrift grew and despite having my basic needs met, I couldn’t shake the feeling of wasting time. One particularly restless night, I asked myself, “What am I really looking for? Why do I feel so lost?” In that moment of introspection, I realised it was okay not to have all the answers right away. That realisation became a turning point. Sometimes, the answers come with time and self-reflection.

“Sometimes the questions are complicated, but the answers are simple.” — Dr. Seuss

Takeaway for You: When feeling overwhelmed, take a moment to pause and reflect. Allow yourself the space to explore without pressure. The journey itself is as valuable as the destination.

Finding My Purpose

I decided to try my hand at being a Special Educational Needs (SEN) Teaching Assistant, thinking that teaching might be my calling, especially as I hadn’t seen many male teachers in primary schools. However, within a week, I realised it wasn’t the right fit. It didn’t provide the mental stimulation I craved, and quitting felt like another failure. But in hindsight, I see it as a vital step in learning what didn’t resonate with me.

At this point, I began seriously considering further studies in Psychology. Originally, I had thought about pursuing the Doctorate in Clinical Psychology, but after reflecting on my undergraduate experience, I realised that I had disliked the research-heavy modules. It was clear that the academic, research-oriented nature of the doctorate wasn’t for me. I then looked into applying for a Psychological Wellbeing Practitioner (PWP) role, particularly interested in delivering Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). But as I explored further, I realised I wanted to do more than just CBT. My exposure to thinkers like Carl Jung, Sigmund Freud and existential philosophers such as Friedrich Nietzsche sparked my interest in psychodynamic- and existential approaches. These methods of therapy focus on the complexities of the human experience, rather than merely symptom management and I felt deeply drawn to them.

Reflecting on my academic journey, I realised that while my degree laid a strong theoretical foundation, I lacked practical experience. It was only after graduating that I pursued voluntary roles in mental health, which gave me insight into applying my learning in real-world settings. These roles were invaluable, but I couldn’t help but wish I had sought similar opportunities during my undergraduate studies. Gaining hands-on experience earlier would have deepened my understanding of the field and allowed me to connect theory to practice sooner.

Takeaway for You: If you’re pursuing a career in Psychology, it’s crucial to seek practical experience alongside your studies. The earlier you apply your knowledge, the clearer your career path becomes.

In the end, I applied for a Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Skills, an accredited course, and I was thrilled to be accepted. The course was intellectually stimulating, deeply rewarding and most importantly, meaningful. For the first time, I felt like I was truly on the right path.

“Find out who you are and do it on purpose.” — Dolly Parton

Takeaway for You: When your work aligns with your values, it becomes more than just a job. It becomes a calling. Pay attention to what excites and fulfils you and pursue it with intent.

Facing the Challenges of Being a Young Man in Therapy

As I continued my studies, I found that the field of therapy, especially Counselling, lacked diversity, particularly when it came to young men. According to a BACP (British Association for Counselling &Psychotherapy) survey from 2014, a staggering 84% of counsellors are female, while only 16% are male. 3% of therapists were between the ages of 20 to 30 and the average age of a therapist is 53. As a 25-year-old British Bengali male, I felt the weight of these statistics.

When I enrolled in my Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Studies, I was excited but also aware that I was entering a predominantly female environment. Initially, there was another male student in the course, but he dropped out, leaving me as the only guy. The experience of being the only male was a reminder of the gender imbalance within the field, but it also gave me a unique opportunity to observe and learn from my peers, most of whom were women. Despite being in the minority, I felt incredibly supported throughout the course and the camaraderie I found within the group was invaluable.

The lack of young men in the field of therapy is something that I hope changes in the future. Mental health awareness is crucial, and I believe the more diverse therapists are, the better we can serve a wide range of people.

Takeaway for You: Sometimes, you may feel like an outsider, but it’s important to lean into that discomfort. Often, the most growth comes when you step outside your comfort zone.

The Path Ahead

I’m now a couple of months into studying for an MSc in Integrative Counselling and Coaching, which is an exciting step in my journey as a trainee therapist. My plan is to eventually work in private practice, but I also hope to have a portfolio career. This could include roles such as working as a school counsellor, supporting individuals in care homes, or working with youth groups. I also see public speaking and advocacy work as a part of my future, aiming to break down the stigma around mental health and make therapy more accessible. In time, I’d love to write a book or even start a podcast to share my experiences and raise awareness about mental health, especially in minority communities.

Ultimately, my goal is to support people through therapy while promoting mental health awareness on a broader scale. Mental health is just as important as physical health, and it’s crucial that we continue the conversation, break down barriers and provide support for everyone who needs it.

As I reflect on my journey, I see how each challenge has shaped me into a more resilient person. I’ve learned that resilience isn’t just about bouncing back from adversity but also about evolving through it. As a trainee therapist, my experiences have deepened my understanding of both myself and others and have strengthened my commitment to helping others work through their struggles.

“The oak fought the wind and was broken; the willow bent when it must and survived.” — Robert Jordan

Takeaway for You: Resilience is about growth and adaptation in the face of challenges. Embrace your unique path, knowing that every experience is building your strength for what lies ahead.

I hope that was somewhat insightful.

Thank you Fahim for writing from the heart and sharing your turning points, which have lead to you flourishing in a new career. We wish you every success moving forward. 

Maybe you were inspired reading about Fahim, maybe you have your own story to tell? Please get in touch to inspire aspirant Psychology colleagues of the future. You never know, your experiences may be just what they needed to hear about.

Kind regards,

The Pathways team.